November 2004 
A Backwards Glance
...a series of interviews by Medical Advocates for Social Justice
with the public health and healthcare leaders coping with
infectious disease challenges to  the marginalized.


The Use of the Internet by Gay and Bisexual Male
Escorts


Gordon Nary interviews Jeffrey T. Parsons PhD. Associate Professor
of Psychology at Hunter College and Director of Hunter College's
Center on HIV/AIDS Educational Studies and Training (CHEST).

Hunter College of the City University of New York

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MASJ:: Your article “The Use of the Internet by gay and bisexual male escorts: sex workers as sex educators.” in the November 16, 2004 issue of AIDS Care is a valuable addition to sex worker and men who have sex with men research and provides important insights into a sex worker subculture and their clients that have not been given the attention that they deserve. Could you comment on the difference between the Internet solicitations of sex work compared to other methods of solicitation?

Parsons: Internet-based escorts have more options.  They can solicit clients using their own individual websites, or through posting their information on escort websites (which can be searched by state or city by potential clients).  They can also solicit clients in chat rooms, or place ads in gay magazines with links to their website or email address.  As such, much of the "connection" between the escort and client happen online, rather than face-to-face.  With street-based, or bar-based sex workers, those interactions, and subsequent negotiation of what will happen sexually, have to happen in person. 

Negotiating safer sex is easier in an online interaction than face to face. An escort online can potentially be negotiating with several clients at once, therefore unlike the face to face negotiation, rejecting demands for unprotected sex from a client has less of an economic impact.  Further, in non-web based forms of escorting, the sex worker is most likely already in the sexual situation when negotiation occurs. The sex worker must then decide to continue with the sexual interaction or dress and leave without being paid. Non-web based escorts have invested more time in the client which may influence their ability to negotiate unprotected sex. So being able to negotiate the interaction with the client before actually meeting him face to face enables an Internet based sex worker a greater amount of autonomy than typically enjoyed by street based or bar based workers. This in turn helps Internet based men to work under safer conditions.

The age and education of the Internet sex workers may surprise some, and may be a significant factor in the results of your study. Could you comment on the age range, median age, and educational background of the Internet sex workers?

Our clients ranged in age from 22 to 47, with a mean age of 32.  Most of the men reported having at least some college, only 2 of the men had less a high school education or less.  Nine of the 46 men had a graduate degree or were working on one.  This is another way in which these Internet-based sex workers differ from other samples - the stereotypical male "hustler" is a young runaway with little education.  The men in our study were older, educated, and a number of them were putting themselves through graduate school or college with their sex work income.  Another striking difference we found between our Internet-based sample and prior samples of street-based men was that 100% of our participants reported non-sex work sources of income, ranging from occasional outside work to well paid careers. Clearly our sample was not engaging in "survival sex" akin to their street-based counterparts.  The demographics of our sample are very similar to those found among gay men as a whole in research conducted online.

MASJ: How were the sex workers solicited for your study?

Parsons: We obtained email addresses of male escorts from online websites, chat rooms, and through Internet searches.  We limited ourselves to New York City, because we wanted to interview the men in person.  Once we had the list of potential emails, we composed a letter that described the study, described that we were academic researchers interested in learning about the lives of male escorts, and made it clear we were not part of law enforcement, and that the study was anonymous.  We sent emails to 360 men, and 60 called us for more information, and of those 46 participated.

MASJ: How were the interviews conducted?

Parsons: We did them one-on-one in our offices.  Our research center, is located in Chelsea, and is in a fairly innocuous building - it doesn't say Gay or Sex Worker or HIV/AIDS or anything that might make someone worried about being seen there.  When the men came in for the interview, they provided informed consent, and then did the qualitative interview for about 90 minutes, followed by filling out our paper-and-pencil surveys.  The interviews were done by gay male interviewers (psychology graduate students) with substantial training in interviewing.  We tape recorded the interviews, and then had them transcribed for analysis.

MASJ: Please describe the qualitative interview.

Parsons: The interview really tried to capture a full picture of the lives of these men.  It started with basic questions about how and why they got into sex work, how and why they use the Internet for soliciting client, how they prepare to meet with a client, what goes on in their sessions.  We also got detailed information on their most recent sexual encounter with a client, as well as with a non-client.  The interview technique was very open-ended, and we really encouraged the men to talk as much as they wanted, but also let them know they could refuse to answer questions if they were concerned.  Very seldom did they not respond, many actually expressed appreciation about having the opportunity to "tell their side of the story."  We also asked the escorts to describe their own personal sexual desires and what the difference was for them in what they did with clients compared to what they did with their casual sex partners (or main male sex partners).

MASJ: You also conducted a quantitative interview. Please describe this process

Parsons: After the in-person interview, we gave the men a detailed survey that collected details about the quantity and frequencies of their sexual behaviors, as well as measures of other psychological factors.  It was really designed to understand rates and percentages and such, whereas the qualitative interview was really designed to get a picture of the lives of these men.  The men filled out the surveys on their own, and then gave them to the interviewer when they were finished.

MASJ: How comfortable were the sex workers being interviewed for this study?

Parsons: Overall, they were very comfortable.  Some began with apprehension, and a bit guarded, but once they realized that we really were after THEIR perspective and that we weren't going to cast judgment on their lives, they really opened up.  Many of the interviews went much longer than the time allotted.

MASJ: What did you learn about the use of the Internet for solicitation of sex work?

The Internet has made sex work more accessible for both workers and clients.  It's easier to make connections now, because you don't have to leave home.  It's also made the process safer, especially for sex workers. Because the escort can negotiate in advance (often on line) what will happen, they can be more particular in what they will and won't do, as well as which clients they will and won't see.  The street-based sex worker, who needs the money to survive, may be more willing to engage in sex without condoms if it means more money.  The escorts can charge a lot more for their services, typically $200 an hour, so they don't need to see as many clients as the street-based sex worker.  Plus, a lot of these men had other sources of income, so sex work was not their only way to pay the bills.  The Internet just provides more choices and options for everyone.

MASJ: Your findings on safer-sex practices are very important. Could you comment on these findings?

Parsons: We were somewhat surprised to hear so many of the escorts report receiving client requests for "barebacking" or having anal sex without a condom.  But, we were pleased to hear that most of the escorts refused these requests.  The big surprise, however, was learning that some of the men took their roles as sex workers very seriously, and became "sex educators" to their clients.  These men would not only refuse unsafe sex, but would explain to clients WHY they had to practice safer sex, what was safer and what wasn't, etc.  Overall, the vast majority of the escorts were consistently using condoms with their clients.

MASJ: Did you expect such a significant consistent practice of safer sex?

Parsons: Yes, and no.  There have been other studies to show that male sex workers are more likely to use condoms with clients than with non-clients.  What we did not expect was the degree to which the men were committed to using condoms and taking the time to go the extra step to educate their clients about the need for safer sex.

MASJ: What’ is disturbing is the high demand for and for bareback  sex by potential clients. Do you have any insights into the reasons for this preference?

Parsons:  Barebacking has emerged strongly in the gay community, and the Internet certainly provides a venue for men to find other men to engage in this.  I think barebacking stems from a number of factors, including burnout about condoms and safer sex, changing peer norms in the gay community about safer sex, the way HIV is now commonly viewed as a chronic disease that is easily treatable, etc.  Some men have also simply taken on "barebacking" as a part of their identity -- that is, they might very well have been practicing unsafe sex for years, but now they have a simple way to identify themselves as a person who doesn't use condoms.

MASJ: In your opinion, what are the cultural factors contributing to the interest in bareback sex?

Parsons: Again, I think much of it has to do with where the HIV/AIDS crisis is today, and how for many men it's sort of dropped off their radar.  There is a sense of optimism that some men think "even if I get HIV I can just take a pill and it will be fine."  Culturally, the gay community, certainly in New York City, is less concerned about HIV than before.  The bars no longer routinely provide free condoms.  There's more emphasis and focus right now on methamphetamine use in the community and the role that it plays in unsafe sex and HIV.  But by shifting the focus to meth, it's leading to even more complacency about unsafe sex - so now you've got guys who might have some (but little) worry about having sex without a condom before, now feeling even more empowered to have unsafe sex as long as they and their partner are not on meth.  Also we cannot discount the impact that the Internet has had on the barebacking phenomenon. Widespread adoption of Internet use and the introduction of the HIV medications that severely reduced the mortality rate occurred simultaneously. Barebacking emerged online because it is the flip side of sexual negotiation. It is much easier to search for bareback partners online because one does not have to deal with face to face rejection or confrontation.

MASJ: How is the public health community  responding to the high interest in bareback sex in the gay community?

Parsons: There is a considerable effort in New York City, certainly on the part of community-minded members of the LGBT community, as well as the Health Department.  People are now talking about the dangers and potential problems.  And even the Internet has responded -- now, alongside all the barebacking web sites, you have www.safesexcity.com  for men committed to having sex with condoms. 

However, if we do believe that gay men are suffering from safer sex message burnout, we need to support that notion with more research and we also need to begin adapting and testing new messages.

MASJ: What did you find was the economic impact on those sex workers who consistently practices safer sex?

Parsons: It was interesting, because of the Internet, and the relative ease of soliciting and finding clients, it really made no difference.  That is, escorts committed to safer sex could refuse requests for unsafe sex, knowing full well there would be enough clients interested in using condoms.  So, financially, there was no real incentive to lower one's safer sex standards in order to make more moneySeveral of the men who had been working as escorts for many years attributed their longevity in the business in part to their consistent safer sex practices. In fact, some men mentioned that their insistence on safer sex helped clients to trust them, leading to ongoing relationships with regular clients- a boon to business.

MASJ: Could you comment on your findings on the impact of safer sex insistence of sex workers on their clients and their role as safer-sex educators?

Parsons: Many of the men interviewed suggested that their promotion of safer sex distinguished them as professionals. The men in our study commented that the upscale client who hires escorts regularly is looking for professionalism defined as an escort who is personable, discreet, not under the influence and will not put them at risk for an STD. One of the participants specifically talked about getting a phone call from a past client, thanking him for "waking him up" to safer sex, and crediting this escort with saving his life. This is one example of how an escort who is educated about risk and risk reduction strategies, and who incorporates these practices into his sessions with clients, could be said to be a "vector of education" to men who may need safer sex messages the most - men who use the Internet as a tool for finding casual sex partners, and men who have sex with men, but do not necessarily identify as gay or bisexual, and may have female sex partners. These non-gay identified men do not participate in the gay community and as such may not be reached by public health campaigns targeting gay men. Male escorts, who often report seeing closeted or married clients, could potentially act as "outreach workers" to these hard to reach individuals.

MASJ: What are the potential implications of your findings on potential public health initiatives to reduce the barebacking practices of those male and bisexual sex workers who do not consistory practice safer sex?

Parsons: Since it seems that the Internet has become the venue of choice for looking for clients or escorts, it would be the best place to begin. Placing ads in the gay papers that include escort listings is another option, but a very expensive one. Getting the cooperation of the webmasters of escort locator sites is essential. Banner ads, FAQ pages, etc could all easily be implemented. Hopefully the example of some gay male porn producers who will no longer hire actors who have appeared in bareback films (or are known as barebacking off camera) will lend some weight, since the bottom line of these production companies has not been impacted as a result of this policy. Again the larger issue concerning barebacking is that ambivalence or rejection of safer sex has become socially tolerated if not acceptable to many. We must begin targeting gay men’s beliefs that "everybody is doing it, it's no big deal."

The strategies used by the men in our study who did practice safer sex may also offer a template for "ways of working safely" that could be incorporated into outreach campaigns targeting sex workers. Additionally, these men could be utilized to help change peer norms in the community about safer sex - if it seems like "everyone is using condoms" then individual men might be less likely to feel that "no one cares about safer sex anymore."

MASJ: What are the potential implications of your findings on potential public health initiatives to reduce the barebacking practices in the gay community?  

Parsons: Since we have demonstrated in our small sample that gay and bisexual escorts can successfully negotiate safer sex with clients, hopefully the gay male online community can learn to do the same. Public health initiatives could begin online, but would require the cooperation of webmasters. The content of these initiatives could include an online chat room, providing examples that utilized many different approaches of how to negotiate safer sex which would allow the individual to choose which approach he is most comfortable with, and lastly, it could be something as simple as having websites that cater to online hookups posting the latest statistics of HIV infection because even in a city like New York, most men in the gay community are unaware of the numbers.  

It’s also important to note that the men who participated in our study constitute only a very small portion of the gay and bisexual men who use the Internet to "hook up" with casual sex partners. It is reasonable to think that men who are not paid for their casual encounters may benefit from the negotiation and education strategies developed by the "pros"- male escorts.

MASJ: Thank you for your research and insights into this neglected challenge to more effective HIV-risk reduction among US male and bisexual sex workers.

Gordon Nary is executive director of Medical Advocates for Social Justice and the AIDS Drug Assistance Protocol Fund.


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